Love and marriage, as the song goes, go together like horse and carriage. We all know that's not true. A horse, I would imagine, would prefer not being attached to anything. For the Malay woman, however, she is expected to find a husband before she reaches 30. Much less in the olden days, when she would have been labeled a spinster if she was still unmarried by the time she reached 21. Things have changed, more women are income earners, some do it better than men. But, the old aunties and uncles, and grand aunties and grand uncles, who lived most of their lives in the previous century, still ask the dreaded question, "When are you getting married?" Why do we get married? - It's sunnah, yes, but, can a person not go to heaven if she or he does not ever get married? - To have babies? Bundles of joy? All they do is cry and poop. You have to feed them, take them to the baby doctor once in a while (which is getting more and more expensive), find sitters for the